Monday, December 10, 2012

O Christmas Tree

The first opportunity we had to get a Christmas tree was Saturday night, December 8. It was dark when we headed to Klicker's in Walla Walla to pick out the perfect tree. It was very cold but the kids were pretty excited about it. After walking up and down a couple rows, Kyler pointed out the tree he wanted. It was very tall and quite big around at the bottom. We weren't sure we could get it through our doors at home and into the house!



We told Kyler we might need to pick out a different tree, but he REALLY wanted this one. He said he always wanted a HUGE tree and this one was perfect. He was right. This tree was huge. It is probably at least 11 feet tall and probably 5-6 feet wide at the base. We have never had a house where a tree this size was even a possibility. But with very high ceilings and more open floor space, we knew it would fit if we could just get it through the doors! 

Here's the tree!


The wonderful people at Klicker's helped tie it up with twine so it was slightly smaller and put it on the roof of the vehicle. When we got home Greg pushed, I pulled, and we managed to shove the tree through our back door! It may have lost a few needles along the way... But we managed to get it set up and situated and it looks great. It is very pretty. The kids were so tired at this point, we just got them to bed and promised to decorate it on Sunday.



Sunday afternoon after lunch we all decorated the tree together as a family. It was a great time together. Last year we didn't really have Christmas at home because we had already moved out of our house in Sacramento and we hadn't gotten the keys to our new house in Walla Walla yet. So we didn't get to do the tree selection, decorating, etc. We are thankful we got to spend Christmas at my sister's house but it was sad to not be able to decorate our own house. So I was pretty excited to be doing this all together as a family in our own home! 






"We're ready for Christmas now, Mom!"

Saturday, December 8, 2012

Making Cookies

Friday evening, December 7, we had several college students over for dinner and cookie decorating. Our friend, Kathryn, brought her boyfriend and a few friends over and had fun with the boys. It was a lot of fun.

Kathryn helping the kids cut out the Christmas cookies


They made sugar cookies, made some yellow and green frosting (by kid's request) and decorated away. Kyler really enjoyed dumping different colored sprinkles onto the cookies after one of the college student spread the frosting on. 


Crazy boys!  Kyler said his tummy hurt.
I think he ate a few too many cookies!

The kids had such a great time making and decorating the cookies. But I think they enjoyed eating them even more. Even Caden ate some! Thanks Kathryn and friends! Let's do it again sometime.

Friday, December 7, 2012

Lego Christmas

Kyler is in a Lego club at school with some of his classmates. They meet once/week after school. He absolutely loves it! There are engineering students from the university who come lead the club. Each week they have a topic they learn about and then put into practice. The first week they learned about levers and how to use them in building legos. It is a lot of fun.


December 6 was the last day they met before Christmas vacation and the theme was “Christmas.” The leaders talked about Mary and Joseph and baby Jesus and the stable and animals. Then each of the kids was assigned a “character” to build out of legos. It was so fun to see their creative minds working!

Here is the end result along with the kids in the club and the leaders from the university. I think it turned out so cute! In case you can't tell what the tall things on the top are, the yellow one in the middle is a star, and the one on the right in the back is an angel on some sort of tower. This was designed by one of the students. :) 



I think they did a great job! So cute.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

New Heart Diagnosis...

Well, this is a post I never thought I would have to write. It is a long post, so please bear with me as I try to include all the relevant information. It seems that Caden has some heart defects which have always been there but no one has seen until recently. Let me back up and I will tell you the whole story through today.


Since we moved to Washington, we had to establish the kids with new cardiologists. The closest pediatric cardiologists are in Spokane, three hours away from Walla Walla. However, we are lucky, because they come to WW about once/month to see patients there. For us that works out perfectly since both the kids have been doing great and shouldn't need a lot of monitoring. They had their first appointments with Dr. Burg in WW in April. She examined both boys and we went over their medical history. Caden's took longer since he has been through more in terms of surgeries, complications, etc.

Dr. Burg wanted to do echos on both kids but decided she would like to do them at her office in Spokane in August since we were going to be there for other appointments for Caden anyway. And, she wanted to get a copy of the only heart catheterization Caden has ever had from UC Davis in Sacramento just to have it for review and future comparison. I completed the medical release forms for that to happen.

In August, the kids had their echos in Spokane and for some reason, they weren't scheduled to see the cardiologist on the same day. So, we scheduled to see them in Kennewick (which is an hour away from WW) the following week. At that appointment we met with Dr. Garabedian who is the senior cardiologist in the group. During that visit, he told us Caden had a small ASD (atrial septal defect). (I wrote about this in a previous blog if you want to go back and read it.) But he really believed it was very minor and nothing to be concerned about right now. He said they would check back in a year and see how things were going.

So, imagine my surprise when I get a phone call while Greg and I are in Monterey in October, from the cardiology office wanting to schedule a heart catheterization. It was a scheduler and I asked her why they wanted to do a cath. This was the first I had heard about it and I had no idea anyone was even considering this. The last I knew we would see them again in August 2013 and talk about things then. The scheduler was really apologetic because I hadn't heard from a cardiologist yet. She told me she would have a nurse practitioner call me and update me on what was going on. Well, it ended up being several hours later when I finally got a call back, but it was Dr. Burg who called and not an NP, which I was grateful for.

Dr. Burg also apologized for not calling me sooner, and especially not calling before the scheduler got ahold of me. She said she had been out of the office sick for several days and that had caused her to not call me when she planned to. She told me she had finally gotten a copy of Caden's cath in September from UC Davis. I'm really not sure why it took them from April all the way until September for them to send that to Spokane. But there is nothing I could do about that. Dr. Burg said she compared the cath from July 2009 to the echo they did in August this year and she didn't like what she saw. She said she had some concerns about things that didn't look quite right. First of all, she said she didn't think the ASD was small. She thought it looked pretty big. And she said the right side of his heart was enlarged, and it looked like there was a possibility of the pulmonary vein going to the wrong place based on coloration (oxygenated vs. non-oxygenated blood) they were seeing on the echo.

Talk about feeling like I got punched in the gut! I could hardly believe what she was telling me. She went on to say she felt a cath was necessary to further diagnose and identify the problems so we knew what we were dealing with. That being said, she didn't feel it was time-critical because he was doing well. So she gave me the option of waiting until springtime to do it. I told her I definitely wanted to wait. That way it would give me time to process this new and overwhelming information. Because if they were correct, it meant that Caden would have to endure open heart surgery to repair things. And he's never had open heart surgery. They were in his chest but they never had to open his heart. They repaired his aorta and his diaphragm.

I couldn't help but cry when hearing this news because I thought everything was behind us in terms of surgeries. I was completely stunned with this new and devastating information. A couple days, I decided I wanted to get another opinion, or two... First I contacted a pediatric cardiac surgeon who is in Sacramento; Dr. Teimour Nasirov. He was finishing his fellowship at Stanford while we were there in 2009 and when he was done, he was hired by Sutter Memorial Hospital in Sacramento. He was very involved in Mended Little Hearts, the heart support group we belonged to there, and we had become friends over the years.

I told him what I had just found out and asked him if he thought it was possible. He said he had a hard time believing that Stanford, UC Davis, and Dr. Van Gundy (the kid's cardiologist in Sacramento) would all have missed this. But he said he has learned to never say never when it comes to heart defects. So he wanted me to have the cardiology office in Spokane send him a copy of the echo for him to review and then we could go from there. I called their office the next day and asked them to send it.

Then I decided I needed to talk to Dr. Van Gundy and see if he could go back and look at Caden's echos from his office and see if he could find anything that made him agree or disagree with Dr. Burg. I left him a voicemail and he called me back a few days later. I told him what was going on and he said he would definitely go back and review the imaging and he would get back to me. A week later, he called me and told me he agreed with Dr. Burg and he felt Caden had “Sinus Venosus ASD.” This is a specific kind of ASD. He said he didn't feel a cath would be necessary and that he would probably just need to go in for surgery. Hearing this news, I was crushed. I was holding out hope that he would say Dr. Burg was wrong and everything was fine. But with his consensus I resigned myself to the fact that Caden needed surgery. Greg on the other hand was adamant Caden was fine and would not need surgery.

I was still waiting to hear from Teimour about the echo we had sent to him. But week after week went by and no echo arrived. I had Dr. Burg's office send it more than once and he never got it. At this point, it was almost the week of Thanksgiving and I was going to be in Spokane. Caden had a few doctor appointments that week so I went to their office and had them burn me a disc with his echo while I waited for it so I could make sure Teimour got it. I was flying down to Sacramento on November 27 to go meet baby Olivia, so I told Teimour I would hand-deliver the disc to his office as soon as I could get there from the airport.

On November 27, I flew to Sacramento, got my rental car, and drove directly to Teimour's office. He was there and I handed him the disc with Caden's echo. We talked for awhile and I told him that if Caden had to have surgery I wanted to do it at Sutter with him and Dr. Reddy. Dr. Reddy is the surgeon who did Caden's surgery at Stanford. He comes to Sutter once/week to do surgeries with Teimour. This way we could have the same surgeon who did Caden's first surgery, we could have Teimour who we know and trust, and we could be in Sacramento where we have a support network and places to stay while we are there. Teimour wouldn't even talk to me about any of that though until he reviewed the echo. He said he was taking it to Stanford with him the next day, November 28, and was going to present Caden's case at their weekly cath conference to see what the team there thought about it. He said he would call me the next evening to let me know what was decided.

I received a call from Teimour on the 28th telling me Dr. Reddy agreed it looked like Sinus Venosus ASD but there was concern about the pulmonary veins and the potential for “partial anomalous venous return” and they wanted more imaging done.

The question now was where do we do the imaging? And what is necessary? Do we need to do a cath? Or can we do an MRI and get all the information necessary? Obviously I want to go with the least invasive option possible and that would be the MRI. They both require sedation, but the MRI is non-invasive which means fewer risks and that sounds a lot better to me! But I have to wait to find out what the doctors recommend.

On December 4, the decision was made by Dr. Reddy and Teimour to do an echo at Stanford on December 19. Greg and I are going to be in California for a few days for Christmas and this gave us the opportunity to do this echo. They said once they did the echo they would decide whether or not they needed more imaging or if they were happy with what they got. If they want more imaging they would squeeze Caden in on the 21st at Stanford for an MRI or cath in order to take full advantage of the time we are in California.

So that is where things stand currently. We have tickets to fly down to Oakland and stay with Greg's sister in Concord for a week. While we are there, we will take Caden to Stanford for an echo on the 19th and go from there. Please keep us in your prayers! We just want some definitive answers so we can move forward one way or another.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Meeting Olivia!

I am so excited because on Tuesday, November 27 I got to fly down to California to meet sweet little Olivia! She was only 5 days old when I met her and sweeter as can be! I was in town from the 27th – December 4 and stayed with another friend of mine. The main purpose of my trip was to meet Olivia and spend time with that precious baby girl. But the beauty of this trip was I went all by myself! No kids. No husband. That meant I could do my own thing. I didn't have to worry about anyone else's schedule. :)


I took full advantage of my week! I met friends for lunch, for dinner, for coffee, for chats and everything in between. I got to go to church at my church and actually listen to the whole sermon without being interrupted by little boys demanding my attention. And I spent as much time possibly cuddling that precious baby girl. She is just so wonderfully sweet! It truly was a wonderful time. Just look at these pictures of little Olivia. I am so in love with that girl! 

My first introduction to Olivia!

Olivia with her beautiful Mommy, Suzanne!

Those beautiful eyes

 Snoozing away as I said goodbye  :(

I also got to meet up with several of Caden's former therapists. Julia, his physical therapist; Monica, his occupational therapist; and Michelle, his feeding therapist. It was so great to see them and catch up. I am so grateful for all of Caden's therapists and the impact they made in his life. And, I am so lucky to have these people in my life and be able to call them friends. They helped me so much during the first three years of Caden's life when everything was a struggle for us. Every one of them made a difference in both my life and in Caden's. Thank you!

Michelle had a baby after we moved away and I got to meet her sweet baby girl, Adair. Isn't she adorable?! I had so much fun holding her and snuggling with her which Michelle and I caught up on life. 
 

I am truly blessed and so happy to have the opportunity to take this week and spend it with friends. Thank you to Greg and my parents for making it possible for me to have some time away from the boys. Without them, I wouldn't have been able to go.