Thursday, August 28, my appointment for the fetal echo was in the afternoon so I had all day to think about it. I was relieved when the time came. I got to the office and ended up having to wait for quite awhile before being seen. This worked out okay because Kelly wasn’t able to get there at my appointment time anyway. All the while I waited I was under the impression the technician would be performing the echo. However, when I got to the exam room and the cardiologist himself came in, I was really surprised. Dr. Van Gundy is Kyler's cardiologist as well. We have known him since Kyler was about 2 months old and really like him. He is very down to earth and easy to talk to and willing to answer questions. Of course, I was disappointed Greg wasn’t there because he would have come if we knew Dr. Van Gundy would be doing the echo himself. But it was too late now.
As he performed the echo, he told me that he agreed with some of the things the perinatologist said, and disagreed with some other things. He calls himself an optimist and will give us hope where he sees it. But he will also tell you the truth and not let you believe things are great when they’re not. At the end of the echo, he told me he could see all four chambers but there were still problems. He said the biggest problem was the aortic stenosis (narrowing) and that he did still see the hole where the septum didn’t fully form between the ventricles (VSD). However, he said since we had chosen not to terminate the pregnancy, we still had 20 weeks left to see how the heart changed. He said a lot can change during that period, especially with the heart, and since he wasn’t forced to make a determination right away, he had time to monitor it. We will be doing echos every 4 weeks to see how things progress. Dr. Van Gundy said if the heart was the only concern we would be in fairly good shape, but since that is not the case, we really will need to look at everything.
I asked him about the diaphragmatic hernia and he said that is really bad because with the liver pushing on the right lung it might not develop normally. Without the right lung (it does 60% of the work) in combination with the aortic valve narrowing, he said the baby would have almost zero chance of survival. However, he said if the liver shifted down and allowed the lung to develop, there was some hope but it would mean months in NICU on machines and even after that it would be a long, hard road.
When we talked about the neurological problems, he said it was hard to tell. Originally we had been told the baby probably had Down Syndrome by Dr. Sweeney. But when we saw the perinatologist, he said it was unclear what the neurological problem was and without an amnio we really would have no way of knowing. But, Dr. Van Gundy said that based on the baby’s activity level in utero, that he didn’t feel it was Down Syndrome. He said it was more indicative of Trisomy 13 or Trisomy 18, both of which are much more devastating chromosomal disorders to have. Life expectancy is quite short and if the baby were to live, there are much more severe levels of mental retardation. Also, in talking to Dr. Van Gundy, he felt it would be beneficial to us to do the amnio just so we could be prepared for what we would see at birth and know better what to expect. He also said if we were to go the route of heroic measures and try to save his life that this would allow the right teams of surgeons and specialists to be ready and waiting at birth.
Anyway, the appointment with the cardiologist was very helpful and he took a lot of time with me. We also already had a follow-up appointment scheduled for Kyler for September 11, so Dr. Van Gundy said he would be happy to talk to us about the baby at the same time. That was great because it means that Greg can be there and he can ask questions as well. This appointment really gave me and Greg a lot to talk about and a lot to think about over the coming weekend.
Saturday, September 6, 2008
The Fetal Echocardiogram
Posted by Carey at 7:45 PM
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I was given your blog by Valerie Rexin. I run a support group for families of children with congenital heart defects. My daughter is 22 with a host of problems including a complicated heart defect. We will be thinking of you during your next several months. Feel free to ask any of us for anything.
Oh sweet Carey, Greg, Kyler & WeeOne....You are right, I do not know what to say. Life is so hard. We are praying for you all! You must be living in a nightmare. We are praying for strength and courage for you. We are so impressed with the way you have looked "inward and upward" and know God will carry you through this time. If there is ANYTHING we can do...let us know! We love you guys so much and cannot believe life has taken this turn for you! You are so brave and all very precious! God be with you!
Sharla & Randy
Greg & Carey,
Rachel Griebel forewared this blog to me....the prayer train will continue! Keep your eyes on the Son and know that many are thinking of you often and will do what ever we can for you.
In our prayers,
Megan Gibbons
May God send you the right people at the right times to help you though your difficult journey. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.
Natalie Tache sent me your blog...dear ones, we serve a God who is good and faithful and able to do more than we imagine! I will be praying for His ultimate peace in your lives, as well as for the healing of your precious son.
Ruth Demers
Carey and Greg,
Not sure if you remember me from Walla Walla days but I work at Milo Academy and just received the link to your blog on our prayer chain. My heart is crying out for you! I am lifting you up to the Father in heaven, the only One that knows the answers and the future! May you remain strong and be filled with courage! Much love!
James and Christina (Bond) McGill
Carey,
This is Sheri Paydock. I was forwarded your blog from one of the playgroup mommies and I want you to know that my heart goes out to you and your family during this very difficult time. I'm so sorry to hear of the news but please know that you will be added to our prayer list!! God IS in control, even during the most difficult of circumstances!! Blessings on you. You're in our thoughts and prayers!
Carey & Greg,
I was wondering if you had checked out www.caringbridge.org ? It may be easier to communicate with your family and friends through.
Megan Gibbons
Greg and Carey...I was directed to your blog just today and just finished reading your story. My heart cries out for you both and the feelings of pain, disappointment, and uncertainties that you are both going through. While I can not say that i know what you are going through from personal experience, while I worked as a NICU nurse in Portland I was on a specialized team that worked with babies with issues like your little boy...especially diaphragmatic hernia's. Many of these families and I bonded so much through struggling and fighting together that I still keep in contact with them. So I have a special place in my heart for the struggles you are going through. I just wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I will be praying for you for the strength and peace that God promises to those who ask. Love to your whole family!
Heather (Schmunk) Wells
You are in our prayers and close to our hearts daily. As I said in my email please let me know if there is anything our family can do for you. We send you love and hugs--Rachel and Jon
Dear Greg & Carey,
Many of us face varying degrees of difficulty at times during our lives. Marty and I certainly have and we have discovered that it is during our most difficult times that we tend to want to either love God more and depend on Him or curse God more and forsake Him. It's our choice.
Nonetheless, regardless of our choices, Marty and I came to understand that even in our difficult times, God did what was best for us in the long run.
We’ve had difficulty, at times, seeing His unfailing love in the middle of our pain and difficulty; but hindsight has always revealed God's undeniable grace, care and love for us.
We are lifting you folks up in much prayer. It is our request that God will grant the desires of your hearts. But should He, in His infinite wisdom and mercy, allow you to travel a difficult road, our prayer is that you will not lose faith in the One that has given all for you and us!
Remember that you have a supportive Christian family at SOAC and if you need help, just call on us. We’ll be there!
May God Bless and keep you!
In Christian Love,
Bob & Marty Morris
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